i can understand where your concern is coming from and i have been trying to get better about putting my foot down in conversations, but unfortunately that fundamentally clashes with my desire to approach conversations with nonas on an even footing where we're both working towards solving the problem because that inherently means taking their words in good faith and assuming that they do want to be constructive and open to dialogue. that said, if i feel like a line has been crossed where it's obvious to me that this does not seem to be the case, i have definitely started expressing that more and that's an opinion shared by other mods as well and hopefully that should make you feel better about the issue.